The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating - Study Gateway
I'd heard lots of buzz about Andy Stanley's The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. Andy Stanley. Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for? - Andy Stanley. Watch for Free Purchase DVD(s). Andy Stanley, in The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating emphasizes that instead of looking for the right person, you need to become the right.
If you are not in a Bible Study group, find a few friends who have similar needs to yours, and invite them to participate in the study with you. Usually before they do. We think we do. But in the end, regardless of how many potential right candidates there are, one and only one is chosen. As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well.
They moved on to the next right person. Then they set off looking for the Right Person. They met someone they were physically attracted to, added sex to the relationship right away, and fell into a kind of neurochemical bliss that made them believe that not only had they never loved like this, no one in human history had.
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
But once they got married, they had a problem: Neither the husband nor the wife knew anything about relationships. Soon enough, their relationship problems began causing chemistry problems. The sexual part of the marriage died, leaving both of them frustrated and confused.
Separation and divorce followed.
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating by Andy Stanley
No one wants to watch a movie about a happily married couple. Think about some popular movies, TV shows, and songs about romance. Which of the rules do you agree with? Which ones do you disagree with? Watch Session 1 Video Note anything that impacts you.
How have you seen this way of thinking affect your relationships or those of your friends? Actually the promise of no strings-attached sex with a way above-average-looking person is used to sell just about everything. Sexual scandals among politicians, athletes, and celebrities. Infidelity is woven into the plot of just about every form of entertainment that involves a plot. So cherish it, protect it, preserve it, reserve it!
I loved this part: The present will be your past, which will be present in your future. Namely, pain you will experience later because of decisions you are making right now.
People drag their past in their marriage and future. When sexuality and chemistry and passion dies — because they are no good at relationships. In fact, our flaws are often magnified in marriage.
So flawed people bring problems into a marriage and bringing others into the mix like children will not solve the underlying problem.
So why not start now becoming the person your future spouse wants and needs. Your preparation now is worth much more than your commitment later. Whether you still in the game, or back in a season of looking for the love of your life, this book can help.
Sex and sexuality are a bit like fire. The same is true for all things sexual. If you never been married or are under thirty, even if you have lived with someone you underestimate the complexity of your sexuality and the long-term ramifications of your sexual conduct.
As Stanley uses the example: Our bodies share a similar design when it comes to our sexuality to be expressed within a specific context. You can choose to express your sexuality outside the parameters of that divine design.
Romance is fueled by exclusivity.